Flamboyant psychologist: 10 tips on how to get a boyfriend

This article was written by Adejoro Olumofin aka "Doktor" Mofin the Relationship Consultant.
10 tips on How to get a Boyfriend :

(1) Remove guys from your friendzone list. (2) Smile Often. (3) Change your normal routine. (4) Eliminate distractions. (5)Open mindset and Reasonable standards. (6)Go out less with your friends. (7)Be more active on Social media. (8)  Join an Organization that is 60% male dominated. (9) Rebrand / RePackage yourself. (10) Pray...


(1) Remove guys from your friendzone list : "Friendzone" is a mental classification or categorization of a guy or group of guys in a lady's mind I.e she sees a guy as a non sexual object or as a brother. Some single  ladies today see having a lot of guys on their friendzone list as an achievement or an award, they enjoy the fact that guys keep trying to get their attention or approval while they call him things like "bro" , "cuz" , "G" "padi" "Egbon" as a means to discourage him from trying to talk to them or ask them out. My question is ; if you're single and you're looking for a boyfriend why have so many guys as just friends without giving them chances? Or opportunities to prove themselves to you. Marriage counsellors have revealed that most couples were initially just friends or co-workers before they started dating. Un-friendzone some guys and see where it leads, you may just be swept off your feet or be walking down the aisle soon.

(2) Smile Often ; Look Approachable: A lot of guys are discouraged to approach a Lady who has a strong or mean face. Some ladies attend weddings or fashion shows just to frown their faces, men may be scared of instant rejection or think you're just mean. Primacy Effect in Psychology makes emphasis on first impression being an important factor in perception. So Ladies if your face is strong and your heart is soft make an effort to smile more. This makes you look more approachable, most men don't like being rejected in public by a woman so they would be most likely discouraged to approach you if you're always wearing a hard / strong face.

(3) Change your normal routine (try a new church, bar, cinema, beach) : If you're a single lady and you've been attending the same church, cinema, bars for the past 16 months and there is no visible suitor I suggest you switch the branch of your church from Ikeja to Surulere, or Apapa to VI. This is a Process known as randomization; doing something different or attending new places will give you a new set of possibilities of meeting new suitors or making new friends generally.

(4) Eliminate Distractions : (Exs, Single minded friends, friends with benefits etc ) : Exs that just hang around like vultures waiting for drunk sex to happen again or standing in your way of moving forward  need to GO, "single minded friends " ladies you may have that friend or "friends" who wants you to be single because she's single too and it's ok for you to have a boyfriend only when she has a boyfriend, that friend/ friends needs to go, friends with benefits only create a mirage in your mind because you're being emotionally and physically satisfied but there isn't any strong commitment so you find yourself in a quandary or dilemma because you're living for the moment and not the future.

(5) Open Mindset and Reasonable Standards : Some Ladies have crafted and created their boyfriends or husbands in their minds, they have played the role of creator in their Cognitive Archetypes so any guy who doesn't meet a particular standard or level shouldn't even bother walking up to them. No one is saying lower your standards but there are a lot of guys with potential out there... Not everyone can be 100% and complete when you meet them.

(6) Go out less with your friends : Obviously this doesn't mean you should be a recluse but there are sometimes when you should just be that pretty or stunning lady at the mall or movies. Studies have shown that men feel more comfortable approaching a lady who is alone than with a group of ladies. Some ladies feel uncomfortable or think it's a taboo to go out alone and feel that they would look desperate or awkward but ladies write your own rules, what works for others may not work for you.

(7) Be Active on social media : some people may disagree but social media when used properly can be a good medium for meeting people. Some ladies from January to August don't post a single picture of themselves, their favorite football club, favorite movie, favorite political party on their BBM or Instagram they are basically Ghosts and observers. By posting a picture of anything you can attract a similar mind like yourself for you to at least start a conversation. It takes just one conversation to start something special

(8) Attend organizations that are 60% male dominated ( gym, dance club, weddings) : Attending the gym often is not only good for giving you a great body but also for  meeting guys and you being the centre of attraction, weddings are the most popular in recent times and there are more males than females at weddings. Weddings have been credited for initiating a lot of marriages and relationships

(9) Rebrand / Repackage yourself: While Staying true to yourself and upholding your ideals and goals. Focus on making yourself better than who you were yesterday by hard work, eating healthy, networking, working out, SELF LOVE and attitudinal orientation because if you don't believe in your self no one will believe in you. Don't let your last boyfriend or relationship define you. A lot of us still carry scars from our past relationships, this creates a burden in our minds and impedes our progress.

(10) Pray: this is the most Important factor when searching for a boyfriend. Prayer does things that science cannot explain.

Remember having a boyfriend doesn't make you complete, and being single doesn't make you incomplete. There are a lot of people in relationships just to mark register " I have a boyfriend" but aren't happy. Above all do what makes you happy and what is beneficial to you, stay true to yourself and have reasonable standards..

BC Records finally releases the hit single Ire by Nonny...

Top Nigeria record label "BC Records" finally released the amazing song titled IRE by the newly signed song writer and performing artiste Nonny, The song was produced by the amazing producer JLas Beats . Nonny came into the music scene in 2013 creating a music anthem for Vertigo Bar, Elegushi, which is part of the BC Entertainment Company...

This went viral almost instantly and ever since, he's been in the studio working... On the 4th of Sept 2015, Nonny officially signed to BC Records (Pictures below). ‎Words have it that Nonny already has songs with International recording artistes, to be released early 2016.

Listen to the song below...



Follow Nonny on IG & Twitter: @nonny_official

Cossy Orjiakor shares sexy pic from Germany

The actress is still lounging in Frankfurt, Germany and shared this photo from her night outing...

A politician's prostitution solution.. 'Men should marry more than one wife!

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A Kenyan politician has advised men to marry more than one wife as one way of combating prostitution. David Gikaria, a Nakuru, Kenya Member of Parliament said that if men married more than one wife then prostitution would end because all single women will get husbands.

Speaking on Monday, September 14 at a free medical camp he had organized in his constituency, Gikaria, who has three wives, said that prostitution is on the increase in Kenyan towns because women lack husbands.

 "There are so many women in our towns who don’t have husbands or men in their lives and this forces them to resort to prostitution and this thing can be solved if only men agree to marry more than one wife," he said. "Why should we allow these women to suffer cold at night when we can take care of them in our homes." he added. Gikaria gave his own example saying that he has three wives and called on men to learn from him. "I think those people who have money especially MPs are well off should lead from the front by marrying many wives," said Gikaria.

Photo: Meet this 64-year-old virgin

Ngipheni from KwaMafunze in Pietermaritzburg, South Africa is a virgin at 64. She had to remain a virgin because that was the only way to participate in reed dance, a yearly dance/cultural activity for their king, Goodwill Zwelithini’s called umkhosi womhlanga. She has been part of the reed dance since she was a teenager.

"Before we go to the ceremony, our guardians test us to make sure that we are still virgins. This is because the ceremony is only for virgins," she said.

Although still a virgin, Ngipheni said she has longed for sex before. "The only way I could deal with the longing was by remembering my parents’ advice. Longing for sex is natural if you are a human being."

 She said during her younger days, she used to have many boys proposing love to her. "I wanted to remain innocent so I turned them down." Ngipheni also revealed that she had a boyfriend once who later became her fiance.

"In our days our fiances never rushed us into having sex. They respected us. I separated with my fiance because he cheated"

Ngipheni added that she was happy that she’s safe from sexually transmitted diseases. She stresses that she is not saying young women should stay away from sex and marriage. "If you have sex do it responsibly. Do it after marriage. Once you are married, ask your partner to go for an HIV test before you engage in sex. This will reduce the number of people with HIV and teenage pregnancy."

Ngipheni’s guardian, Zithobile Mbhele, said she has been working with her for more than 30 years. "She is a good influence on young women in the area. We are proud of her. She has never missed umkhosi womhlanga"” said Zithobile.

Soundcity TV Staff Scams Actress Shan George

According to new reports, Nollywood actress Shan George had paid a Soundcity TV staff, Mr Andrew Ameh also known as Dro, N100,000 to play her son’s music, Summer Rose…

Speaking with Diamond Celebrities, Shan said she gave N100,000 to Ameh, whom she met through a man called Deji Soundcity, to play her son’s music video titled ‘Summer Rose’.
Shan said:
“When I confronted him, Dro said ‘MADAM NO BE ME SAY MAKE U GO SHOOT RUBBISH VIDEO FOR UR PIKIN. IF U DO PEM, I GO SPOIL UR PIKIN MUSIC CAREER FOR THIS NIGERIA O. BRING 5OO THOUSAND NAIRA BEFORE I PLAY THE VIDEO OR DON’T CALL MY FONE AGAIN, WE DON’T GET PAID ANY SALARY IN SOUNDCITY SO WE HAVE TO DO OUR OWN HUSTLE TO SURVIVE HERE.”
Shan George released a statement, which reads:

We ( Shandel Productions) thereby appeal to Sound City Management to quickly fish out this staff to avoid further…. Like Jude Okoye said, it is the artiste job to shoot a good video and you guys job to play it. And in the right sense, it should be the artiste getting paid for airplay, like they do in other civilized countries. Thanks!

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OUCH!!! Man Walks in On Wife Having Sex With Next Door Neighbour

Some women have guts sha! So its not bad enough that a married woman has a lover but she has to had salt to injury by having sex with him right on her matrimonial bed! Well, that was exactly the case in Ajegunle area of Lagos State on Saturday after a man identified as Udoh caught his wife having sex with a neighbour on their matrimonial bed…

According to the report, Udoh’s wife, whose name was given as Gift, a mother of two and one next door neighbour identified as Chukwuka, were busy having sex when Udoh arrived and was hinted about what was happening by their neighbours.
Udoh was alleged to have peeped through an opening in the window where the despicable action was being done – And according to a neighbour who identified himself as Joseph Enang, immediately Udoh saw Chukwuka having sex with his wife, he shouted, “Abasi mbong” and rushed to the door where he screamed the name of his wife.
Udoh, reportedly rushed into the room when Gift opened the door but Chukwuka allegedly escaped through the sitting room door.
Enang said:

“When Udoh picked his cutlass and came out looking for both Gift and Chukwuka, they were nowhere to be found. Udoh bit his hand and swore that if any of them returns to the premises, blood would flow. He called his wife’s elder brother, telling him to order his sister, Gift back home or he would not see her alive. He narrated what happened to her brother.
“The neighbours were aware of the adulterous behaviour of the duo. Chukwuka is also married and blessed with one boy. His wife had quarreled with him over his relationship with Gift but he would not listen.
”He lied that there was nothing between them but just good neighborliness. People in the compound knew what was going on and later told the man secretly and that was why he told the wife he was going to an emergency party at Ikorodu and may not return on time. Unknown to the wife and his secret lover, he had set a trap for them.”

Na wa!

Photos: 2 armed robbers arrested after attacking a bank customer in Benue

These two robbers were arrested yesterday afternoon at about 1pm after they and three of their other robbery gang members snatched a bag containing N2 million from a bank customer who just stepped out of a bank at the North Bank area of Makurdi, the state capital. Residents of the area and some motorcycle riders immediately alerted police officers stationed at Balcony Parks and Gardens junction. After a 30 minutes gun battle, two of the robbers were arrested while three of them escaped.

Why Obasanjo picked Jonathan as Yar"Adua's running mate - Alamiyeseigha

Former Bayelsa state governor, Diepreye Alamieyeseigha, says former President Obasanjo picked Goodluck Jonathan as the running mate of late President YarAdua in the 2007 election because he, Obasanjo, wanted to stop former VP Atiku Abubakar from running for president. Alamiyeseigha reportedly said this while speaking to journalist at his home in Yenagoa, the Bayelsa state capital.

"For Goodluck, I knew that Jonathan was going to be vice president of Nigeria as far back as August 25, 2005.  Former President, Olusegun Obasanjo, told me that since  Atiku and I wanted to take his job, that it would be over his dead body; and that unless he died, Atiku cannot be president of Nigeria. Obasanjo said since Atiku had picked me as his running mate, he would make sure that he dealt with and disgraced us. He said he was going to use my deputy to rubbish me before everybody. So, I knew.” he said

Man U manager Louis van Gaal's arrives to dinner in custom Bentley

Manchester United manager Louis van Gaal arrived for a celebratory dinner on Sunday night - in style. Just hours after seeing his club beat Liverpool, the Dutch manager took his wife and a family to dinner in this stunning Bentley - complete with personalised W1 NGS number plate.

 

Photos: Omotola and daughter stunning at Elite Model look 2015

Actress Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde and her second daughter, Meraiah both stepped out in cropped tops at the Elite Model Look 2015 which held in Lagos over the weekend. More photos after the cut...

Aisha Buhari calls for the enforcement of rape laws in Nigeria

Wife of President Buhari, Aisha Buhari has called for the enforcement of rape laws in Nigeria. Mrs Buhari made the call at a meeting she had with Ministry of Women Affairs, UNICEF and National Population Commission, led by the Permanent Secretary of the ministry, Dr Ezekiel Oyemomi at the state house Abuja yesterday September 14th.

“We are aware of the national law on rape passed this year on May 25 (Prohibition Act 2015) which states imprisonment ranging from 12 to 20 years. I advocate for the enforcement of this law at all levels. Unfortunately, children are the most vulnerable, being exploited at different stages of their lives. A number of cases on violence against women and children are being reported on daily basis with the most alarming one of those happening in higher institutions of leaning. These include sexual harassment and assaults of female students by lecturers as a result of lack of laws and appropriate actions against the perpetrators,” she said