Experiences, Rants And Tips From Laila's Cupid: - (Singles Only)

Confused, Flabbergasted and Stunned
…Because that is how such experiences leave me and they are as follows

• when a man in his 50s claims that a 37-40 year old lady is too old. I am left asking-too old for you or too old to get pregnant, which one? Do such men even realise that no lady below 40 will ordinarily (if given a choice) settle for them…unless there is a serious economic catch in the arrangement?

• when a man’s request reads a lady between ages 25-30 but must be gainfully employed…you kind of wonder how many 25-27 year olds are gainfully employed in Naija today. If there are…they are in the minority!

• when a man writes me love note to post and then relax and wait for a lady to approach him. No sane lady would approach you Mr. Tony (surname withheld) no matter how rich and cute you think you are. At least no in this clime. You are dying for someone yet you sit waiting for her to fall into your laps? Wake up and stop confusing yourself. My refusal to publish your notes anymore is not intentional but because of your refusal to do the needful

Sometimes, a tad of reality should accompany our expectations.

• when a lady/guy claims to be in their late 30s, unemployed and searching…you are left wondering if such persons shouldn’t be searching for a job first…I mean, nobody wants to touch someone who can’t bring something to the table with a 10ft pole these days.

Again, I do not believe in the concept of joblessness. There are so many worthy things to do to keep busy-even if the millions are not rolling in yet. You can also learn some skills…there must be a passion you left buried somewhere in you. dig it up and make it pay your bills.
There’s proliferation of private schools (who are in daily need of teachers, nursery minders etc), why not get on board? Then get a related certification(e.g N.T.I) along the line-to boost your qualification. I have been preaching this to a lady that graduated over 5 years ago and still job seeking (from the comfort of her home). Her response to me is usually me, a teacher? nooo !

There is dignity in labour (no matter how lowly!). One who works remains much more respectable than someone who will have to service a battery of men (usually found on facebook and badoo!) to stay afloat. At some point in life…you tell yourself the home truth. It all comes home to roost…you know? The phone that some unemployed people carry around costs more than some certification exam and a Masters degree(in Nigeria) combined! so my rant continue.

• when a supposed mature (age wise-at least) lady is eventually introduced to a man (with a job,education and even from her region of the country) and she comes complaining about his village. As you press the ignore button towards such confused persons,you are also wondering when the village that someone comes from should be of more concern that the character.

• when an over 30 lady keeps rejecting prospective suitors because of Catholic/Anglican dichotomy. its confusing, strange and unthoughtful. (Nuella, Chiamaka and Tinu pls take note) I wonder what church or denomination has to do with love. Your excuses of Fashola and his wife is not so practicable and I for one will caution you against any man who willingly ditches who he was just to be with you.Every man is not as westernized as Fashola and you may not have an arsenal as deep and rich as Fashola's wife

• when a newly match made folks chat with each other and spend half of the time talking about wonderful ex(es)! If such a relationship is important enough (for you to rub it in the face of another). why did you send your request to laila's cupid?? There is no self respecting fellow who will not withdraw once you say such to him/her. Only a desperado will remain in the picture after you throw such at him/her. I understand some people do this in a bid to appear not desperate. But for God’s sake, it is not important. Whoever you are introduced to (for a relationship )already knows you are available-so cut the jest!

Finally…when searching, you need a great deal of patience. The patience to check out whatever lead that comes your way-even when you don’t feel like it. Always advisable to explore all options and leave no stone unturned, so that when you close a chapter…you will not be plagued with second thoughts.
Experience has taught me that where your hope is(sometimes),may not be where your ‘smile’ will come from.

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