Ladies, Guys: Why you should Test your Lover before marriage

I’m gonna marry her anyway / (Marry that girl) Marry her anyway / (Marry that girl) Yeah no matter what you say / (Marry that girl) And we’ll be a family: Magic! — Rude Lyrics

The First Kiss

When I had my first kiss with my girlfriend number one, I could still feel the tingling on my lips hours later. It was like a million exploding stars. I swear I did not eat that night and did not wash my face the next day. I was in love for sure!

The First Slap

When I met number 2, I was smitten with her seemingly timeless beauty. I was in love and I thought she felt the same at that time. I tried to kiss her but got a slap for my efforts. It stung but I laughed it off. I was in love, regardless!

But I did not marry either of them. Number One was interested in a rich, older, sophisticated man: her college lecturer. She knew I was not the one and I was downhearted for a long time. The wounds were healed by Number Two till we both realised that we could not be happy together, not if we want it forever. You see, no matter how hard we tried, I could not take her to heaven. You know what I mean!

First love

Real love is mutual, reciprocal and fulfilling. So, when I met my wife, I knew what love was and how it should be. I knew exactly what I wanted and knew not to settle for less. A woman who ticked all the boxes and more was exactly the woman of my dreams. I was not about to settle for less or compromise on any aspects. As they say, life is like a bus-stop. If you board a bus, you can get off, at, or even before the final destination. The journey is what you make of it and the company you keep on the bus sure helps.

A partner that makes the journey exciting and exhilarating keeps you on the bus till the very end. Choosing the right partner is therefore vital. Do not settle for less than you deserve: not for fame or for all the money in the world! As Oprah Winfrey says, “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

Teenage s*x

Almost all Americans have s*x before marrying, according to premarital s*x research that shows such behaviour is the norm in the U.S. and has been for the past 50 years. The new study shows that by age 20, 75 per cent of Americans have had pre-marital s*x. That number rises to 95 per cent by age 44. These statistics are, perhaps, significantly different for Nigeria. However, there should be a clear distinction between teenage s*x and pre-marital s*x. 

This article is not about teenage s*x!

Pre-marital s*x

For those who are of age and ready for a serious relationship with a view to marriage, test- driving your partner and ironing out the kinks may save a time of misery. Many people today feel that you should try out your partner before marriage. ‘Pre-marital s*x is normal behaviour and has been for decades,’ says researcher Lawrence Finer, director of domestic research at the Guttmacher Institute.

One important reason for marriage is the sex. It has got to be great for both partners. This can keep you on the bus for life! S*xual compatibility and satisfying s*x is vital in relationships. You need a partner who makes you smile in anticipation in the afternoon (when life is stressful) and who you can turn to at night for endless pleasure. If it is not happening (if you are not happy at night), it is not going to be long-lasting, as frustration builds up and explosions occur in the divorce courts.

Women are from Venus

We asked some women to debate the value of pre-marital s*x recently. All of them have heard or know someone who is unhappy in their marriage. They are s*xually frustrated either because of the size of the man’s member (usually too small!), er*ctile dysfunction, premature ej*culation or just plain poor performance in bed. ‘A man who does not know how to bring out the fireworks is not going to be around for long,’ said one.

Men are from Mars

We asked some men about the same and their thoughts were completely different. They would want to check that the woman is fertile and able to bear children before marriage. So for many, it is not the s*x so much as the ability to procreate. Similarly, a man with poor sperm count and infertility can be difficult for some women to tolerate.

Test-drive your partner

One way to avoid it is to know your partner intimately, know that you can achieve great s*x together and know that you are compatible: able to live together happily ever after. Sharing time with your partner and seeing that you are a perfect fit is desirable before marriage.

Okay, this is not even my opinion but it’s open to debate!

Next week: Vote for Change or business as usual!

Written by Dr. Biodun Ogungbo

Man hangs self in uncompleted building in Lagos

Residents of Ile-Iwe community in the Meiran area of Lagos State say they were shocked to see the dangling body of a stranger in an uncompleted building in the area.

Some of the residents told Punch Metro that the victim was on Thursday brought down dead from the rope with which he hung himself.

They added that efforts by the people in the community and the police to identify him had proved abortive.Our correspondent gathered that the stranger, who wore a white caftan, took his life between Wednesday night and Thursday morning after sneaking into the building in the night of Wednesday.

The incident happened on Lawal Unity Street, Meiran, Ile-Iwe bus stop. The uncompleted building is isolated from the rest of the houses in the area.

A resident, Adebayo Salami, said nobody knew the man and attempts to find his relatives had not yielded any result.He said,

“I was called on Thursday morning and told that somebody had died in a building.

“My initial thought was that it was somebody living in the area, but when we got there, we discovered that it was an uncompleted building and the man was a stranger.”

Salami added that the victim might have committed suicide to cover up a secret or run away from a consequence.

A community leader, Samuel Oroja, said the traditional ruler of the community had been informed of the development and plans were on to conduct rites to forestall a recurrence.

“I have called some other elders, including the traditional ruler, to notify them so that we can know what to do about the corpse.

“Nobody knows the man or where he came from. We have reported the matter at the Meiran Police Station.

“What we will do now is to prepare rites and make sacrifices to forestall a recurrence of unnatural death like this because this is a bad sign for the community,” he added.

However the Police Public Relations Officer, Kenneth Nwosu, said the police had identified the victim as Mosunmola Raphael, a 28-year-old man.

Nwosu said,

“His relatives came to identify him and they said he had mental problem. His corpse has been released to the family after they presented some documents.”

Braless Rihanna having fun at the Super Bowl(Photos)

A braless Rihanna was spotted at the Super Bowl after her much talked about Pre-event performance with Kanye West. The sexy star showed off her perfect belly and rocked a boyfriend jeans.She was spotted getting naughty with fans ..Girl knows how to dress to suit every occasion ..See more pics below

Buhari trashes President Jonathan in online poll again

           

If the President Goodluck Jonathan campaign thinks the social media will not have any impact on the coming February 14 presidential election, they would be committing a costly blunder. Today, there are more Nigerians online than there were back in 2011 and even those who are not online these days are getting some feedbacks from their family and friends who are active on the social media.

On like three different occasions, Jonathan has been defeated squarely by Buhari online. What is the cause; what are those in the opposition doing right and what is the President's team doing wrong?

Above is another poll result conducted by Jonathan's man on social media, yet Buhari won convincingly!

It’s disgraceful for soldiers to run away from Boko Haram —Buhari

General Muhammadu Buhari, on Saturday evening, declared that it was disgraceful for Nigerian soldiers to run away from insurgents and abandon their weapons in the process.The retired General stated these at the Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida (IBB) Square in Bauchi,He said if elected, he will put an end to insurgency

“It is disgraceful for Nigeria despite the fact that our military had participated in peacekeeping operations in Congo, Liberia, Sierra Leone and Sudan and did well, they could not battle terrorists in Nigeria,”“APC government at the federal level will find a lasting solution to the problem of insecurity. We are going to look into the problems confronting the police, army, navy and Air Force who, despite the huge money being spent on them as salaries and for procuring weapons for them by the government, could still find it difficult to face insurgents.

It’s disgraceful for soldiers to run away from Boko Haram —Buhari

General Muhammadu Buhari, on Saturday evening, declared that it was disgraceful for Nigerian soldiers to run away from insurgents and abandon their weapons in the process.The retired General stated these at the Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida (IBB) Square in Bauchi,He said if elected, he will put an end to insurgency

“It is disgraceful for Nigeria despite the fact that our military had participated in peacekeeping operations in Congo, Liberia, Sierra Leone and Sudan and did well, they could not battle terrorists in Nigeria,”“APC government at the federal level will find a lasting solution to the problem of insecurity. We are going to look into the problems confronting the police, army, navy and Air Force who, despite the huge money being spent on them as salaries and for procuring weapons for them by the government, could still find it difficult to face insurgents.

I Don't Find P'Square Attractive -Cynthia Morgan

Sherifat Morgan known as Cynthia Morgan opened up to the Nation about taking over the industry and her relationship with Jude Okoye who signed her and his brother, Psquare

How old are you now?

I am 23 and still holding it down..

Every time you appear on Television or release pictures for the media you exude sex. Even in your lyrics, you do the same thing, so much that one will look at you and say she can’t do without sex, how often do you have sex?

Hahaha… I know I am sexy but that doesn’t mean I am an addict.

You were quoted somewhere to have said you will exceed the musical achievements of the likes of P’Square, Tuface, D’banj and other new generation pathfinders of Nigerian music. With what you have achieved so far, will you say you are on course?

I’m one hundred percent confident that I am on course. And I think there is no young artiste who should not aspire to be greater than these guys that have open doors internationally for us. Take for instance, when the likes of P’Square started, there was no semblance of structure. It was war before you will be heard outside the shores of Nigeria. But the case is different in our own era. I just began and I already have a humongous fan base in countries like Kenya, Zimbabwe, South Africa and other foreign countries. Even the twins (P’Square) are proud of what I have been able to achieve in no time. The reality is that this is just the beginning.

When North Side Entertainment came along to sign you and you realised you were going to be under the same management with P’Square, did you not feel or are you not feeling any pressure to deliver?

A whole lot of people have been asking me ‘how have you been able to cope with these guys that are known globally and I tell you what I say to them: ‘I have never been under the shadow of P’Square from day one and even when it was time to break out into the market, I did not fly under their wings.’ I never did that baby P’Square thing. Anywhere they are, I will be there. It is a mentality my people are proud of. I just let my work speak – not that Nigerians should listen to me because P’Square said so. In fact a whole lot of people do not know I am with P’Square.

The pressure is from me, because I work, knowing they are the biggest in Africa and I cannot afford to be less than that. That is the only pressure I feel. People have been asking, ‘when will you do a song with P’Square since you have them at your beck and call?’ And I tell them I am not a baby P’Square. I am working and they are working. I know when they listen to my materials they are the ones that will say Cynthia, you no won put us for your album?

Are you that confident?

Yes of course, they must indicate interest first. In fact they need to beg me to be in my album and I will have to see if it is possible. I am not just going to feature them because I have access to them or because we are under the same management.

 You work with three very attractive men in your label. Have you ever experienced any form of sexual harassment or don’t you have a crush on any of them?

Paul and Peter are like my big brothers while Jude (our manager) is my father. So, there is just no way I can develop a sexual relationship with any of them, because we are one big happy family.

These Kanye West's" Mean" selfies with Super Bowl fans have got everyone talking

 Kanye has said he doesn't like smiling because cool people don't smile too often ..Kim too has followed suit saying she doesn't smile to avoid wrinkles..

However, he may have taken his mean mugging look a little too far as fans who begged him for selfies were shocked as he did not even crack a smile or show emotion.

That's Kanye for you LOL..See below

EJA NLA! Dbanj & Amber Rose playing sweet Love

 We all know Amber Rose was in Lagos for Dbanj's 10th anniversary concert on Saturday..However, they both had such great chemistry and seems they have been friends for a long time.Recall the last time Kim was here, she spent 5 minutes...Some fans say since Dbanj is single and she is single, they would make a great match..I think so too

Besides,they rocked matching black outfits and were both styled by celebrity stylist,Jeremiah Ogbodo of Swanky Signature Styling..

Explosion rocks three Rivers state High Courts

Unknown persons carried out a coordinated bomb attack on three separate High Courts in Degema, Isiokpo and Port Harcourt areas of Rivers state this morning. According to reports, the bombs went off almost at the same time, burning court documents beyond recognition.

The state police command confirmed the incident and said investigation is ongoing to bring the culprits to book. Fortunately no life was lost...

Dakore Akande shares photos of her daughter as she clocks 1

Actress Dakore Akande shared these cute photos of her daughter, Zahra Dasola Akande as she turns a year older today. Happy birthday, cutie!

The difference between APC and PDP - Governor Fashola

Speaking during an APC meeting with organized private sector at Marina, Lagos today February 2nd, Lagos state governor, Babatunde Fashola, told his audience the difference between APC & PDP

"The manifesto of the APC is designed to address 2015 problems going on to 2019 while PDP has is a 1999 manifesto and that probably explains the disconnect between our realities and the realities that you hear. The transformation that has been put forth has headed south not west. The Naira has weakened, interest rates has come up and it is for us to chose whether we want four more years of that and the Naira is essential in a free fall in an economy that is currently import denominated and it would only mean that the purchasing power of our disposable income would continue to reduce." he said
"The necessity of now is to halt that free fall. That is something we cannot vote continuity on. I will not. But more importantly as the candidate, Gen Buhari, has said, it is essentially not how much really Nigeria earns, it is what value we get out of that money. If we had sold crude oil, our major income earner for like almost 5-6 years at over a $100 per barrel and all of us are saying there is pain, do we want to continue now when there is reduced income with the same team on the same management capacity. If they couldn't do topnotch at $100 per barrel, can we trust them to do more with less?" he added.