HERE'S 5 THINGS STRAIGHT COUPLES CAN LEARN FROM GAY RELATIONSHIPS

The dynamics of a homosexual relationship often differ from that of a heterosexual ones and in those differences, we can pick up a few valuable lessons.

It's no secret that the dynamics of a gay relationship are vastly different to that of a straight one. Two men in a relationship navigate things entirely differently than a man and a woman mostly due to different expectations, both personal and societal, and different value systems. Here's 5 things that straight couples could learn from gay couples.

Of course, these rules aren't set in stone because we have to make way for individual differences but when we look at the general model of homosexual relationships, there are certainly a few things we can understand work well and we can adopt into heterosexual ones.

1. Learn to live independently

Since men have traditionally been socialised to be independent, maintaining a degree of privacy and flexibility within a relationship is key. Whether this means having a separate vocation or hobby, or establishing physical boundaries, such as creating separate spaces within the home, it really does work.

Maintaining some sense of autonomy makes being with your mate more enjoyable in the long run.

2. Marriage is not always the answer

The fight for gay marriage still goes on in many countries all over the world, but is still unrecognised by most. Despite this, there are still many happy gay couples out there. Why is that?

Well, the stability of any relationship does not come from a somewhat false security that marriage can provide but from commitment and approaching life together as a "we” rather than an "I". Being truthful and authentic provides the best kind of satisfaction that any couple can have.

 Just go for it, married or otherwise!

3. It helps to break free of traditional gender roles.

Gay male couples often run their homes without designated gender roles. The benefits of this practice include applying the best of each person’s problem-solving skills, joint decision-making, and the shared experience of meeting challenges and basking in accomplishments together.

Doing away with the expected roles results in an inclusive, embracing atmosphere and a sense of fun and freedom.

It's important that you are able and willing to reinvent and rethink traditional relationships and try out different models of being together so you can work out what works best for YOU and not what society tells you should work best for you.

4. Learn to be more sexually liberated

Homosexual couples are typically more sexually liberated. There is less inhibition based on prescribed sexual roles and what society thinks is appropriate. They are more apt to explore the full spectrum of sexual pleasure.

They are also able to communicate their desires in the bedroom more readily without fear of reproach.

Typically, same-sex couples do not exhibit sexual “hang ups” as frequently as straight couples.

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5. Love isn't always a fairy tale

Films which depict homosexual relationships are generally quite far-removed from the fairy tale rom- com ideal therefore gay people tend to be more pragmatic and realistic about the extreme challenges of falling in and out of love and staying together.

Realistic expectations and understanding that relationships aren't always flowers, chocolates and romance mean you are better equipped to deal with the conflict, the disappointment and more often that not, the mundane aspects of a relationship.

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5 SIGNS THAT YOU'RE STUCK IN A LOVELESS MARRIAGE

All marriages go through ups and downs but if you recognise these signs, your problems might be more serious than you thought.

Making the decision to leave a marriage is scary especially when you fear being alone and the uncertainty of the future. So many stick with it, settling for pain and dissatisfaction instead and if you're not sure, here are 5 signs that you're stuck in a loveless marriage.

 

Staying in an unhappy marriage can have long-term effects on our mental and emotional health.Research shows that people in bad marriages usually have low self-esteem, struggle with anxiety and depression. Often people feel sad and grieve when they decide to let go but people who divorce do recover emotionally.

If any of these signs mean something to you then it's time to take a long hard look at the state of your marriage.

1. You don't have anything to say to each other

When something comes up in life, whether that's a work event or any accomplishment and your partner isn't the first person you're sharing it with, or one of the first, it means that you prefer to get your needs mets outside the relationship.

Not having any meaningful conversations aside from rudimentary conversations about chores and things that need to get done is a warning sign that your relationship is not in a good place.

2. The void between you keeps growing wider and wider

One way to distinguish between a run-of-the-mill marital rut and a loveless marriage is to ask yourself how long the situation has been this way, and whether it's been steadily worsening.

Most couples go through rough times, but if the difficulties last more than two years, with no sign of relief, you probably should seek professional help. And sooner is always better to avoid passing the point of no return.

3. You dream about a life without your spouse

If you often imagine a happy future without your partner, that's a major sign that things aren't right.

This is a part of the emotional detachment process, during which you may try to convince yourself that you don't care anymore so that the eventual separation feels less painful.

Detaching psychologically by fantasising about having an affair or making plans for the future that don't include your partner can all be signs that you've fallen out of love.

4. You're not be listened to (or listening)

When you sit down to talk with your spouse about what's working and what isn't, do you hear silence? Or does it feel like nothing changes, no matter how vocal you are about your feelings? That's a problem!

The most powerful tool we have for resolving our conflicts is listening and understanding one another.

When we invite our partners to share what we've done to let them down, and when we truly listen and understand their feelings, decades of hurt and anger can easily fade away. Make a point of listening for the underlying emotions and messages in your partner's words.

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5. You're about to have an emotional affair

If you're not happy with your husband, you might be falling into an emotional affair, making another male the priority in your life. And thanks to today's technology, it's easier than ever to get caught up. Technology has allowed people who might never risk having any kind of affair to flirt online.

This creates a situation of 'temptation,' and not everything that takes place online stays online. If your relationship is already on the rocks, giving yourself to someone else, even if it's only online will only make things worse.

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HERE'S 3 WAYS YOU CAN SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE EVEN WHEN IT SEEMS HOPELESS

When your marriage hits the rocks, it might be tempting to ignore it and hope it all blows over but the best cure is prevention. Here's 3 ways to save it.

Wanting to throttle your significant other from time to time is perfectly normal but if you're constantly coming up against the same relationship problem then you'll have to get to the root of the conflict if you want to move forward as a happier, healthier, more connected couple. Here's 3 ways you can save your marriage even when it seems hopeless.

1. Make a list of all the issues you argue or feel hopeless about

Anger does not mean it’s time to fight. Hopelessness does not mean you should just give up on saving your marriage and get divorced. Anger and hopelessness do indicate that there’s a problem, a bump on your marriage path. So begin by asking yourself what exactly you feel angry and hopeless about.

Write out a list of all the issues that you have been arguing about or giving up on. Include on your list the issues that concern your spouse as well as the ones that irritate and frustrate you

2. Drop the attitude

The negative stuff you give each other is totally unhelpful. Negative comments to each other only taint a positive relationship. So, no more criticism, complaints, blame, accusations, anger, sarcasm

digs or snide remarks. No more raised voices or anger escalations either. Stay in the calm zone.

Leave an argument altogether if either of you start to get heated. Calm down so that when you re-engage, you only talk calmly and cooperatively.  

If you want to thrive within your marriage, aim for a ratio of a million to one. That means, do NOT sling mud.

3. Express concerns constructively and make decisions together

A simple way to stay constructive in sensitive conversations is to pick from the following trio of potential sentence starters 

·         "I feel..."

·         "My concern is..."

·         "I would like to..."

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Understanding each other’s concerns is essential for the two of you to begin doing what I call that the win-win. The goal is to reach solutions that please you both. No more aiming to get your way. Aim instead for both of you to feel comfortable with your plan of action.

It's important to notice you have differences, which probably will become evident because you are beginning to argue or to feel hopeless.

Express your underlying concerns. Ask about and list to your partner's concerns. Then create a plan of action responsive to the concerns of both of you.

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WOULD YOU SAY YES TO A MAN WHO HATES ORAL SEX?

Are you one of those who aren't so bothered, or the ones who can't imagine sex without it?

The importance of sex in romantic relationships is well documented in so many places that if you  got a kobo for every time you heard or read about it, you’d probably be a millionaire already.

The thing about sex for couples and partners is that there is no rigid, water-tight definition for what makes it amazing or mind-bowing.

Once partners become used to each other’s bodies and find a balance and rhythm in their sex life, it becomes easy to just coast over waves and waves of pleasure.

This brings us to the issue of women, oral sex and its importance to achieving sexual satisfaction.

Many women have spoken of their inability to achieve orgasm by penetrative sex.

Such women often get off when they get clitoral stimulation with the fingers or orally – most times orally.

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On the other hand, getting head does not mean so much to other women. Sexual satisfaction for such women is not tied to oral sex.

They get more pleasurable sensations from other sexual activities.

From little samples of opinions here and there, it’d seem that it’s a deal breaker for loads of women if a partner does not like giving head.

How true is this? Make your view known in the poll below:

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WHY ARE YOU RUSHING TO GET MARRIED?

Better single and slaying than married and miserable.

I’ll be the first to categorically state that weddings are beautiful and marriages can be sweet.

Having documented so many weddings and having seen the intensity of the joy on couples’ faces at ceremonies, this much can not be denied.

To beautify a wedding is easy. All you need do is pay a good event planner and that’s settled.

To have a beautiful marriage is however a different thing entirely, and you definitely can’t pay anyone to sweeten your marital union.

No matter how long you have been in a relationship with someone, once the seal of marriage is stamped on that relationship, something changes.

For people who had lovely relationships before their marriages, it might be subtle and they might seamlessly blend into it but that change is undeniable.

The threshold of commitment, faithfulness, honesty, effort and all other traits you used to keep the relationship going will become higher.

The margin for error becomes lower. Of course, no one expects perfection, but the need to strive for something close to it becomes ever-so obvious, almost palpable.

And it would appear that a lot of people are yet to understand this. Or maybe they do know and are just not ready for it.

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The rate of divorce attests to this. Marriages crash every other day.

Of the marriages yet to officially crash, a glum-inducing number have failed and are only being held together by frazzled reasons such as the presence of children and to keep up appearances.

The Nigerian society is one that places premium on marital status so much so that at time of writing this piece, I am 75% sure that a mother is calling her son to ask why he’s yet to come introduce his wife-to-be to her.

A father is sat on a rocking chair, complaining to his friend that his 24-year old graduate daughter is just pursuing her career, making money but not giving any consideration to men and marriage.

Friends are no different. Once a number of people in a circle walk down the aisle, they put others under pressure to do the same.

Though they often do this with the best intentions and while some would almost shame you into marrying, others do it subtly and even unintentionally.

People have also been known to place personal pressures on themselves to get married.

And then there’s social media, age factor, and family members [read busybody aunts and uncles] who can’t go a week without reminding you that your biological clock is ticking like the timer on a bomb.

What all these pressure groups [isn’t that what they are?] fail to realise is that there is a different time for everybody and what applies to one does not necessarily apply to all.

To get married, have babies, do PDA for the gram and other cute stuff is what almost everyone desires but not everyone is ready yet.

And to jump into it without adequate financial, mental, emotional stability is to dig a pit for yourself which will actually widen and worsen till it swallows you whole.

Not your aunt, dad, uncle, mum, sister or those friends pressuring you to marry. Just you.

Thinking about marriage when you’re not even self-sufficient is a catastrophic state of mind.

So is planning to get married without having taken charge of your emotions.

How wise and sensible are you with money? How about that temper? What’s up with that uncouth mouth?

Do you know the level of importance to attach to your spouse and the one to attach to friends? Do you even know about birth control? How about money-making ideas, do you have any?

Are you trustworthy, do you know how to trust? How about sexual compatibility, have you had thattalk about sexual preferences?

Does your partner know or possess these traits? Because to have most of them and get married to someone who does not might be just as catastrophic.

It is not enough to love someone. Don’t be fooled. Love is never enough.

There are really so many boxes to fill and check before one could ever deem one’s self ready for a successful marriage, a lifetime of togetherness.

And if you’re reading this and know deep down you are nowhere close, why, then, are you rushing to get married?

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WHAT YOU SHOULDN'T SAY TO YOUR MAN DURING SEX

All the things better left unsaid when you're both getting it on..

It is hard to imagine a man that does not like a woman that is vocal in bed.

And the things guys want to hear during sex range from pleasurable moans, how well they are doing and dirty talk [for those that find such things sexy.]

The list actually stretches further but this article aims to focus on something else – what are the things women should not say during sex?

In a previous article, we explained the things that men should not say during sex because it turns women off; and now we list the six things women should avoid saying during sex because they could ruin the moment.

1. Do you love me?

As you might have heard, sex is more physical for men and emotional for women. And while clarifying issues of the heart is not a bad thing, many men would rather have you discuss it before or after sex… not during.

2. What are we now?

This is another example of how women quickly merge sex and emotions [mind you, no one is saying it’s a bad thing.]

Women usually reserve this question till after sex, but for some reason, some babes pop it during the act. [SMH]

Let’s assume you didn’t know men find it unsexy. Now you do. So, stop it!

3. What are you trying to do?

This is after you have probably been kissing and touching his body and letting him feel yours for about 10 or 15 minutes.

Please, ladies, stop asking this question because, of course, you know he’s not trying to undress you for academic or medical purposes!

So why ruin the moment with this kinda question???

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4. Do you think I’m overweight?

Weight is one sensitive issue that many women are insecure about and this, of course, is what makes them ask the question.

But, hey, aren’t y’all having sex already? Doesn’t that tell you that he has no qualms about what your body looks or feels like???

t’s better to clear this issue before you both get naked. Seriously.

Besides, there are men who love big women. When in doubt, just assume he's one of those guys and enjoy the moment.

Even if he now happens to not like your body, the best time to discuss it is not during sex. Wait till afterwards.

5. What about the money I asked for?

LOL. Think this is just plain and simple blackmail, really.

Women know men would say and grant any request during sex and they just exploit it.

Later, these same women will say men are scum.

6. Aren’t you done?

Well, now I am.

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