Article written by Charly Boy...Enjoy!
As Charlyboy, I
know lots of people will swear that my life is complicated but sorry,
not quite. The truth is that as Charles Oputa, my life is very ordinary
and a bit boring because I choose "simple" happy life. Thank God I don't
live as Charlyboy in my house. I have nothing to prove to my family,
except to love, protect and fend for them. That alone is a full time
job, free mejare.
Some people assume say, because ebe like say small pepper rest for my hand, I just deywan
yarn ‘anyhowly’. Being financially secure certainly can help open
opportunities, relieve stress, and offer some peace of mind. But can all
the money in Naija make you happy if you are unable to feel happiness
from WITHIN? Make we check de matter. This piece is not for people who
just exist, but for those who have become INCAPABLE of counting their
small BLESSINGS.
Sure, some
people have advantages in certain areas of their lives. There are those
who have lots of money, some are physically on point, some have
extraordinary intelligence, etc, but I know that some of us also have
advantages over other people in different areas of our lives as well. I
never measure my humble success by how much money I have, instead I
define it with how much happiness I can activate in me and in others,
even as jungle don mature, my inner peace is golden for me, and the
positive contributions one can make to his environment, profound.
From my great
Father, Justice ChukwudifuAkunneOputa, I learnt the art of contentment; I
also learnt that the universe gives us a playing field where we all
have the opportunity to reach our 100%. That means if 100 people decided
"happiness" was their goal, that goal is equally attainable for each
and every one of them, only the path and time it takes to get there will
be different.
For the sake of
this happiness, peace of mind and the little contributions one makes to
enhance their environment, I have finally defined my no go territories.
Things I will not waste my precious time on, because I no send anybody.
1. Relationships and friendships that don't bring any value to my life, weytin I wan take
am do. I am an "ALL" giver so I need to be mindful and careful of
TAKERS who don't understand the dynamics of giving.This is why it is so
important to set your own value, as well as create and maintain healthy
boundaries because regardless of what the other person does, it's
ultimately up to you to choose what is acceptable in your life and what
isn't.
2. I am a hunter
for positive clean spirits who see goodness in many places, you all
know I have Virgins, not in the physical sense of the word, that's why I
always make it a point to surround myself with positive and proactive
people who will lift my spirit and inspire me to live life to the
fullest! Certainly no room for crappy people, when all they carry is
toxic energy, Tufiakwa!
3. I am learning
to worry less, it's not easy but I’m trying so hard, God help me. I
know that worrying about something that may or may not happen won't
change anything - and you miss out on the opportunity to make the
present great (which in turn could possibly have influenced tomorrow in a
positive way!) I’m learning to let go of excessive worrying, because
really, what’s the point borrowing from the future. If we worry about
what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, that means we have
worried in vain. Even if it does happen, we have to worry twice."
4. Thank God I
never worry about what people think about me, especially those that I
know talk out of ignorance or not well informed about my put outs. I see
my world through eyes of my own personal life experiences and
interpretation, and so does everyone else. For long now, I have
understood that when someone has an opinion of you or your life, it
doesn’t make it a fact unless you agree that it is. You don't need
anyone's permission to set your worth, so why depend on the approval or
disapproval of others. In this area of my life, I’m a master, who born dem.
5. I never try
to change people, but with those I see that are hungry to be better, I
give them impetus to be the best of themselves. I appreciate the
differences; they are what makes this world interesting. So who the hell
can change my attitude, thoughts, or actions so they can feel more
comfortable or secure? No one,dem never born dem. Even my late father tried and failed.
6. I live in my own world, in that worldna only
me be Oba. I never compare myself to others or set my standards based
on someone else's expectations, God forbid. This way the only human
being in this world that I have left to beat, is my achievements of
yesterday. I no struggle nothing with anybody.
7. I don't mind
it when I’m broke, when things are not moving according to plan. The
hardship I have encountered in this life, most of them has been
self-inflicted, just because I’m use to the hard way and hard life. I
avoid setting limits to what I can achieve in my life by remaining in my
personal comfort zone, because when you break out of your comfort zone
is when you grow the most. I have let go the need to be comfortable all
the time."Life begins at the end of your comfort zone" ~ Neale Donald
Walsch
8. Just as I
don't bloody worry about what others think of me, I avoid judging others
and their life choices. The only life I get to live and is responsible
for is my own, so I leave others to live their own lives full out. Doing
so frees me up to live MY life to the fullest.
This write up is
really not about me, it's about some of the qualities that has helped
me stay focused and tenacious in my pursuit of happiness and peace, and I
know when one attains that kinda’ height,
you take things a little easier because at the end of the day, we just
can't take anything with us when we depart. So I am an advocate of
creating our own mini Heaven on earth, not by the material things we
surround ourselves with, but the contentment, peace and happiness we
have learned to cultivate in our lives. Are you a learner?
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